Relationships, Mother, Daughter, Uncategorized

Dear Future Mom (in-law)

Dear Future Mom in- law,

Hii, I hope you are fine, fit and healthy wherever you are. I am in no hurry to meet you for next two three years. I am busy focusing on my career right now and want to establish myself before I meet you and your son.

However, I am also really excited for the fact that I will get to live with you. You know, I have always heard girls complaining about how pain in the ass can mom in laws be. Sorry using such words. But that’s how they say it.

Yes, they complain and always complain about their respective mom in laws. They also say that the second most dangerous word after bomb is mother in law.

The picture that I have in my mind of you is that you never smile. You are the most difficult person to live with. You demand and always demand and you moan. You are the most irritated person ever. You deliberately create problems in life. AND MUCH MORE!

Can you be that evil?

I DOUBT.

I respectfully disagree.

First of all, you have always been the boss of the house. So there is no way I can handle that responsibility well. I should not expect to be the queen of the house and you should not demand that I would learn everything immediately. I will have to learn and for which I might trouble you again and again. We have to patiently deal with this home handling situation.

Secondly, you and I may have a fallout. You and I may not agree on certain things. We may not talk for days. But that does not mean I hate you. You also should not call my parents or relatives or anybody and complain about me.

Sometimes, I do have small arguments with my mom. But I don’t go out and speak ill of her and make her villain of my life. I won’t ever do to you too.

Thirdly, I feel that by tagging our relationship with the word in law, we automatically bridge a gap between us. I don’t want us to be separated by the term in law. I want you to be my mom like my own mom with whom I can share anything and everything.

I want to be a daughter who knows what you expect, what you want and what you need.

I want to have a bond with you that when I come to you feeling sick or low, you comfort me with your care and put me to sleep.

Also I expect you to encourage me in my career like my mother has been doing all these years or like you have been doing for your son. I don’t want you to get influenced by people saying daughter in laws should stay at home and look only good taking care of the household chores.

I am not saying I will not take care of the house or the family. I will definitely give my 100% to the family. But I also expect you to understand that I am an ambitious woman with some dreams.

Lastly, let’s be a team and turn the heads around towards us.

I hope this all come true.

See you in some years.

Love.

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Dark Skin, social issue, Uncategorized

DARK is new Beautiful

So I was following my daily routine at work. Had lunch with my friends and then we went out for a walk after lunch, discussed latest issues. We conversed and conversed little more. All of a sudden our conversation just hit me when one of my colleagues and a very dear friend Mamta said that people talk about her skin color.

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This conversation started when I was telling them that I will soon be going to get one tattoo which is in my to-do list for this year. Mamta was too excited to come along with me to the tattoo parlor as she heard my plans.

Next day, we were chatting and she disclosed that how she also wants one for herself. So I said get one which represents you or your life. She agreed with me. But she was having a hard time to decide because she is not well aware of her likings or dislikings as of now which is pretty normal. Sometimes, we just have to go with the flow of life to learn various things about ourselves.

So I consoled her and said make a list. Write down whom you are closer to, what you love the most, anything that you feel related to. And then she said, yes, people talk about my skin color because I am dark skinned. I didn’t feel bad for her. She is a very strong, brave and a confident personality. She doesn’t let others feel her inferior about anything else. She sure doesn’t say anything, but yes she stands like a hard wall.

I really didn’t have to encourage her so that she doesn’t feel bad because as I said she is firm and a positive spirit.  However, I was thinking of those people who roam around in the world with such mindset. They are themselves plagued and are clinging others with their thought process.

I never heard in my life about anyone complaining about the skin color of men. Never heard anyone saying he is so thin or heavy. What I have always heard discussing others about them are how well paid they are, how qualified they are, how well-mannered they are.

When it comes to women, why such physical attributes are so important. Does not she have an equal rights to flaunt her talent over her looks? Should not society give her a chance to showcase her skills over her skin color? Is it a crime if we talk about her accomplishments over her weight or height? Why is it that we have to have first look at her appearance than her qualification or education and is just exactly opposite in the case of men.

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Well, yes things are gradually changing. It is taking time and it might take a lot of time. But if we have more and more people like Mamta then this world will become a better place to live.

We should develop these feelings in ourselves that we are no lesser than anyone. Embrace yourself. Let these people be who just brag about such issues.

I am proud that I have a friend like Mamta in my life who is so full of life and positivity. Had it been me instead of her, I have no idea how I would have handled myself or such situation. She is such an inspiration.

Shine 100%

Mamta: Pretty Girl.

 

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‘Too Dark’: In Conversation with Jovita George

Preferring fairer skinned over darker skinned has corrupted lots of minds. Not only, girls look out on internet for home made remedies to get fairer skin in just a week, these skin whitening ads act as parasite on the minds of people.
I look out in the matrimonial ads which starts as fair complexion girl, 5. 6 height, 48 weight and much more. or looking for a fairer complexion girl. It is sickening. Just sickening.

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People are usually unaware of the exact era, some believe it roots back to colonialism and only stood as an issue once the British rule ended, where as others say it has always existed. Despite the historically differing views, as we know it today – dark skin prejudice is a largely problematic intraracial issue, which affects almost all cultures and communities.

Being of South Asian heritage myself, it’s disheartening to see the way the way that minds are conditioned into associating beauty with the fairness of the skin. Prejudicing darker skin tones is a problem that often dictates the way that young dark skinned people feel about their own skin, especially girls.

Today, I am in conversation with Jovita George, who is also known on the internet as Mr Jovita George. As a dark skinned Indian influencer on YouTube, she kicks the stereotypes aside and let’s her confident…

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City in a METRO

What a news I read this morning. Metro to be started by 2021 in my own city Chandigarh. Ya, long way to go yet. Almost three years ago, administration planned to bring metro in Chandigarh. Chandigarh is a city and also a union territory of India. It is also the capital of two states Punjab and Haryana. It is the cleanest city, beautiful city and is also on the verge of becoming a smart city. Paid parking systems to go automated, phone bills and electricity bills can be paid in just seconds. who has time? who has time to stand in long queues. who has time to even go to the sampark centres to deposit bills. who has time to stuck in traffic. and comes the metro to rescue us.

Yes, metro in Chandigarh. Chandigarh is a small city indeed but with a population of 1,123,983 . Of course, Chandigarh wont look the way it looks now when metro will come but it will be required. Then you will see metro going above you when you are on your way to sector 10. you are used to see the mountains and then you will see metro. how is that?

and how is that when you leave your home to office at sharp 9 am and leaves office at 5 pm and you are stuck badly in the traffic for an hour. not cool. right? infact sometimes people here think it would have been better to stayed back at office for an another hour. at least you get to see theDelhiMetroBlueLineBombardier2 clean roads and would reach home in just 5 mins.

Also,  ladies  up here are becoming independent but when it comes to commuting alone, i mean if they are driving by themselves that you see less. so yes one more positive point is that the ladies wont have to be dependent on their husbands, boyfriends, brothers, fathers if they want to travel. they can get in a metro and can go whenever they want to, wherever they want to.

and for all those like me who have not seen the metro life, its time. 🙂

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Singh is Bling!!! Not so Shinier

Alright so Singh is bling starring Khatron ke Khiladi Akshay Kumar who faced quite a khatra in the movie but her lady love was always there for him. No no she was not praying for him to be safe from the goons rather she was the real fighter in the movie. Talking of whom, Amy Jackson, the leading lady of the movie barely had any dialogues in the movie but she did quite the stunts which left me stunned.( Go girl!)  Raftar Singh (Akshay Kumar) as expected is again a jolly, entertaining , good from heart and good for nothing moves to Goa to prove himself that he is capable of doing something, gets some work where he meets Sara ( Amy Jackson ) who is from Romania comes to Goa to find her mother. Kay kay Menon is there in the negative lead who wants to marry Sara anyhow. At the time of the wedding, hero comes in and saves the girl from getting married to the villain.
Film has Lara Dutta also, who is the translator in the movie. Because Raftaar Singh does not know English and Sara does not know any Hindi. Now we all know that Lara Dutta is an ex Miss Universe and is very glamorous. But her look in the movie was not shown that way because then people would have gotten confuse who is the heroine of the movie.
Kay Kay Menon again has impressed us with his versatility.
Like any other bollwood film it has songs, comedy action, drama, emotions but where is the story.
Singh has shown his worth but wanted to see something new and more. Oh Yes we have seen these kind of films earlier. Rest is on you. What is your pick on it.

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Having a pretty face is a blessing..I doubt!!

Hii, So I am like any other normal girl.Love to experiment with looks. Be it with my hair, clothes or anything. I get bored easily with the same look. But if I like to change my looks, then it is just for me. Not for anyone else.
I don’t know how it is in other cities since I have not been out of Chandigarh but I have heard things are pretty easy for girls out there in Mumbai, Bangalore or Delhi (for some) fortunately.
When I was young I used to play outside of my home with my friends. It was so much fun.Then as I grew up, things got little change. Even if I have to go to the market, I had to make sure that I should not go when it is darker because that’s when boys roam around. I used to go out either with my friends or with my mom. Things got very weird when I started going to the college. It is a time when you need to get independent because it used to be very awkard if your dad or brother drops you to the college. so I bought activa and hence I started going to the college on my own. It was a very good feeling until boys started following me till home. Not like I want to have bodyguards with me. So why does all this happen. Because boys are crazy, they think they can easily woo a girl or because she is pretty.
That’s a very common problem in here. if a girl is pretty, people would stare at her as if something is wrong with her.
When I am out , and people start looking at you, they turn back at you and then you feel that awkwardness. O h god is there something wrong with me,with my hair or with my dress.
Also, People know you as a pretty girl. They don’t know you for who you are. They don’t know what you are capable of. They don’t know your qualities .They don’t think you are intelligent or hard working because they know you as a pretty girl.
People there is more than just looks. Stop judging girls on the basis of their looks. It is weird very weird..

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