Equality, Girls, Women Empowerment, social issue

Don’t judge her!!

Okay I have only male friends. Does that make me a girl of a questionable character, or a girl who is available or a slut?

Yes I only have female friends. Now does that make me the most innocent girl ever?

How do you decide if a girl is innocent or not?

Or what we say, ache ghr se hai? Comes from a good family?

Wait let me tell you, by measuring how many male or female friends she has.

That’s correct.

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Dark Skin, social issue, Uncategorized

DARK is new Beautiful

So I was following my daily routine at work. Had lunch with my friends and then we went out for a walk after lunch, discussed latest issues. We conversed and conversed little more. All of a sudden our conversation just hit me when one of my colleagues and a very dear friend Mamta said that people talk about her skin color.

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This conversation started when I was telling them that I will soon be going to get one tattoo which is in my to-do list for this year. Mamta was too excited to come along with me to the tattoo parlor as she heard my plans.

Next day, we were chatting and she disclosed that how she also wants one for herself. So I said get one which represents you or your life. She agreed with me. But she was having a hard time to decide because she is not well aware of her likings or dislikings as of now which is pretty normal. Sometimes, we just have to go with the flow of life to learn various things about ourselves.

So I consoled her and said make a list. Write down whom you are closer to, what you love the most, anything that you feel related to. And then she said, yes, people talk about my skin color because I am dark skinned. I didn’t feel bad for her. She is a very strong, brave and a confident personality. She doesn’t let others feel her inferior about anything else. She sure doesn’t say anything, but yes she stands like a hard wall.

I really didn’t have to encourage her so that she doesn’t feel bad because as I said she is firm and a positive spirit.  However, I was thinking of those people who roam around in the world with such mindset. They are themselves plagued and are clinging others with their thought process.

I never heard in my life about anyone complaining about the skin color of men. Never heard anyone saying he is so thin or heavy. What I have always heard discussing others about them are how well paid they are, how qualified they are, how well-mannered they are.

When it comes to women, why such physical attributes are so important. Does not she have an equal rights to flaunt her talent over her looks? Should not society give her a chance to showcase her skills over her skin color? Is it a crime if we talk about her accomplishments over her weight or height? Why is it that we have to have first look at her appearance than her qualification or education and is just exactly opposite in the case of men.

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Well, yes things are gradually changing. It is taking time and it might take a lot of time. But if we have more and more people like Mamta then this world will become a better place to live.

We should develop these feelings in ourselves that we are no lesser than anyone. Embrace yourself. Let these people be who just brag about such issues.

I am proud that I have a friend like Mamta in my life who is so full of life and positivity. Had it been me instead of her, I have no idea how I would have handled myself or such situation. She is such an inspiration.

Shine 100%

Mamta: Pretty Girl.

 

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