Relationships, Mother, Daughter, Uncategorized

Dear Future Mom (in-law)

Dear Future Mom in- law,

Hii, I hope you are fine, fit and healthy wherever you are. I am in no hurry to meet you for next two three years. I am busy focusing on my career right now and want to establish myself before I meet you and your son.

However, I am also really excited for the fact that I will get to live with you. You know, I have always heard girls complaining about how pain in the ass can mom in laws be. Sorry using such words. But that’s how they say it.

Yes, they complain and always complain about their respective mom in laws. They also say that the second most dangerous word after bomb is mother in law.

The picture that I have in my mind of you is that you never smile. You are the most difficult person to live with. You demand and always demand and you moan. You are the most irritated person ever. You deliberately create problems in life. AND MUCH MORE!

Can you be that evil?

I DOUBT.

I respectfully disagree.

First of all, you have always been the boss of the house. So there is no way I can handle that responsibility well. I should not expect to be the queen of the house and you should not demand that I would learn everything immediately. I will have to learn and for which I might trouble you again and again. We have to patiently deal with this home handling situation.

Secondly, you and I may have a fallout. You and I may not agree on certain things. We may not talk for days. But that does not mean I hate you. You also should not call my parents or relatives or anybody and complain about me.

Sometimes, I do have small arguments with my mom. But I don’t go out and speak ill of her and make her villain of my life. I won’t ever do to you too.

Thirdly, I feel that by tagging our relationship with the word in law, we automatically bridge a gap between us. I don’t want us to be separated by the term in law. I want you to be my mom like my own mom with whom I can share anything and everything.

I want to be a daughter who knows what you expect, what you want and what you need.

I want to have a bond with you that when I come to you feeling sick or low, you comfort me with your care and put me to sleep.

Also I expect you to encourage me in my career like my mother has been doing all these years or like you have been doing for your son. I don’t want you to get influenced by people saying daughter in laws should stay at home and look only good taking care of the household chores.

I am not saying I will not take care of the house or the family. I will definitely give my 100% to the family. But I also expect you to understand that I am an ambitious woman with some dreams.

Lastly, let’s be a team and turn the heads around towards us.

I hope this all come true.

See you in some years.

Love.

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Where the world has come to and where the world is going?

Welcome to a 21st century, a world of hatred, jealousy, competition, antipathy and so on. As a child, we were taught to be nice to our fellow peers. We were taught to respect elders. We were asked to maintain peace. We were told never hurt anyone. What makes me think is that where these kind words are gone. Peace, respect, love and happiness are turned into conflict, disdain, enmity, despair and displeasure.

That feeling of being happy for our loved ones is just vanishing day by day. There used to be days when I used to wait for a family function or a get together to happen to meet my cousins and friends. There used to be a long chit chat in the nights under one blanket, sipping coffee, sneaking together in a kitchen to grab food, and standing right next to each other when one gets scolded. There was a love, a connection, a feeling that was never meant to fade away. I guess.

Now is the time when you hear from a third party that your so called best friend is doing immensely well for him or her but he or she just forgets to tell you that one important thing of his or her life. Funny isn’t it? Because they are those same people who always needed your help and you were always happy to help. They might again call you for your help but never expect a call of those little chit chats you had earlier.

Apparently they feel that you might have those evil eyes that would affect their happiness or accomplishments. So you might never hear from your friends or cousins in a longer run. (What is wrong with people)?

Why families and friends are turning into foes. Why people are turning themselves into monsters. Why there are no feelings of bliss or contentment towards people of our own.

I was taught that always smile. Smile brightens the world. Sorry Mom Dad, you were wrong. If I smile then people think that I am onto something, something really fishy.

I hope these people get well soon and spend their precious little time on spreading happiness rather than being doubtful and insecure.

I also hope the next generation would become the change in the world because this way the world is heading towards nowhere. Beautiful sky would look like a pale sky, deep blue colored sea would turn into a colorless sea and life would become dull if these ugly feelings keep arousing. It’s better to stop them right now and forever.

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