I think girls in India are born with the timetable. They enter the world with well-prepared schedule ready for them by their parents.
The typical journey of a girl:
She enters school when she is four or five.
By the time she is eighteen, she needs to be done with her higher education.
Then she enters college, completes her graduation and post-graduation.
After her education, she needs to put her complete focus on her career.
The time span given to her for her career is 2 years. Not more than that.
The day she turns 25 or 26, that’s when she needs to start her married life according to her timetable.
Not just this, she is also told when to produce babies according to her timetable. (No Kidding).
All her life, she does what she is told to do. When she is asked to focus on her career, and she becomes complete career oriented, fate changes. They say, she can work on her career after her wedding also. (Popular saying: shaadi ke baad kar legi, career hi toh hai).
By chance, if she falls in love (Another popular saying: inn sabh baton mei kuch nai rakha, career pe focus karo).
Well the point is if she should not fall in love before then why even after? Just because she is 25, the time has come to fall in love.
Why her life is in the hands of others.
I am not saying elders don’t take right decisions. They have much experience than us.
However, I feel we should get past this “Timetable Pressure” and social pressure that have been on girls from decades. Do not fix any particular age to do things.
The most common problem in a girl’s life is that we tend to find faults if she wants to do things her way.
Why can’t you let her do what she wants to do and support her. Are not this is what parents for?
Are parents only responsible to set up the timetable?
Most of the time, girls give up their dreams because they don’t feel confident about it. That’s because, instead of the assurance, doubts come up.
Instead of supporting her and saying that yes you will be able to do it, queries come up such as are you sure? Think twice. Don’t regret.
Why can’t you say, go for it. We are with you.
If she wants to work for 5 years and then get married, let her do that.
If she wants to get married before starting her career, let her do that.
If she doesn’t want to get married at all, don’t force her.
If she wants to be an entrepreneur, support her.
Be responsible for her happiness.
Do not entangle her with social taboos.
Trust her, hold her hand, give her support, let her breathe and let her live.
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